Monday, February 29, 2016
The title of the article was, "For Centuries, Leap Day was the Most Feminist Day on the Calendar.
I thought this article was very interesting because before the statement said in class about "Leap Day". I did not know this day was meant to be so empowering to female(s). Personally I took the fact that a woman proposes on Leap Day to be an empowering concept. Considering the proposal goes against social norms. After further thought on this subject I realized, "Is this concept of Leap Day proposals that empowering?" As the article stated the idea, "Can a woman only propose once every four years?" Overall, the social norm is for the male to propose to the female. Why can't we challenge the social norm all together? Leap Day presents a challenge that it is okay to go against the social norm. In my opinion, females should stop believing that certain "rituals" or concepts are for the male(s) to handle or take charge.
-You don't have to check in with anyone
-One set of laundry
-No stupid arguments
-You can flirt/dance/make out at the bar without the guilt
-You can gain five pounds and nobody cares
You know, the good stuff.
So there I was, a senior in college, sometimes contemplating a relationship, rarely ever agreeing with the idea. Swiping left on tinder all day, and the occasional right when I'm feeling it.
I thought this entire site was GREAT. Guys tell me I'm pretty (they can't even see the cheese tots I'm eating on the other side of the screen). It was hilarious and great all at the same time. Even occasionally you'd meet one and contemplate your life decisions and grow concerned for your lack of care about your own safety.
So true story: I delete the app, like the normal minded healthy person I am. [sike]
...in the back of my mind I matched with a guy the night before who I really hoped would message me. Why? I'm basic. We met at a frat party and I was infatuated.
Shameful action: I re-download the app, and mysterious Frat man shows on the screen, with a little dot next to his name.
Score. Mysterious boy is interested.
I know you're probably thinking I'm psycho, who in their right mind wouldn't...but hear me out here:
Have you ever heard people in love start saying when you know you know?
Yeah, I think they're all liars too.
Until I fell in love off Tinder.
I want to give my thanks to my generation of "hooking up" culture for developing such a cheesy self-centered app. Because without that app, I would't have met my boyfriend.
We didn't follow the basic rules of dating, so what?
We communicate, we discuss things, we express ourselves. In fact, we shared more on the first night than we ever have with anyone.
Love is a decision.
Generally, things don't work out this way. But I thought it'd be fun to share my story, since it is kind of a rare one.
So yeah, Tinder is a place for game-playing love, but sometimes things catch you by surprise.
I explained how I would never be in a relationship until after college, because who honestly wants to let that single life go? As cheesy as it is to admit, I fell in love with that boy like the cheesy rom-com's you see on TV.
Saturday, February 27, 2016
I loved the film we watched on Wednesday. I think the best story was the last one when the two women were trying so hard to have a family of their own. Even though it was a serious matter, there humor added to it; so it kept the positive energy alive throughout the story. The first story with the two older women broke my heart. It was actually really hard to watch at certain points. I loved how this whole film showed three different perspectives on the lesbian community, and issues that they could face in everyday life.
Also, I thought she was really really cute. Masc girls are adorable.
Friday, February 26, 2016
When the professor announced that there was a new syllabus and assignments on TRACS, I went to the computer lab right after class and printed everything out.
I think that the experiential assignments are going to be very interesting. The one about talking to my partner happened this week after I was looking ahead to the next chapters, but I am thinking about doing this one again. That talk did not end so well... I was actually kind of embarrassed and uncomfortable talking about the "What do you want, what do I want, what can we do differently or try?" I am going to try to have a talk again and try to be a little more open instead of taking everything that is said like a criticism. I have super high expectations for myself in every aspect of life, so I take every little thing as criticism because I cannot let myself be too vulnerable or anything.
There are some other activities that I am looking forward to doing and writing about. I think I might even be interested in coming up with my own activity.
But just to wrap up this week, I found the test to be a little stressful because I totally could not remember the dissected penis labeling part. I totally had a brain fart and everything went away when I got to that part. I think I got the other 2, but that one with the Vas Deferens I just went blank on for some odd reason. I stared at that penis for a while (I get that that sounds really weird), but I studied it and went over the labeling several times.
As for the movie, I found it interesting and kind of sad. Never in my life have I disliked a character that Paul Giamatti played. I wanted to punch him! Or his movie wife.... she was pretty terrible.
I was really excited to get the outline for the semester to see exactly what all we would be doing for the rest of the semester like, love and communication and sexual behaviors and especially all of the panels (not any particular one because they are all pretty interesting).
The movie we watched was very interesting. It put things into perspective when Ellen said something about being able to reproduce. Like, it's so easy for straight couples but for gay and lesbian relationships, they have to go through a totally different process. It can't be easy for them and it made me feel for their relationship. All in all, I liked the movie!
The video changed my emotions from sad, to disgusted, to content.
The first story was undoubtedly sad, but angered me at the same time.
I then was disgusted with how messed up how the group of LESBIAN girls treated the other LESBIAN girl because of her preference of dress. It is so crazy how lesbians were viewed back then and how far they've come to be able to dress how they want with LESS judgement (bc I know they are still sometimes judged).
Then the story with Ellen kind of relaxed me and my emotions compared to the other two stories. I was satisfied with the happy ending.
Thursday, February 25, 2016
in the second story the one thing i couldn't wrap my head around was how the other girls in the house were judging their friend and the girl she liked because amy was a different kind of lesbian than they were. like none of them fit the "norm" so why were they so quick to judge someone else who was different because its not like it was easy for them at first. you would think that they might have been a little more understanding about amy.
it was interesting to see the progression from the first story to the last story; going from where you are just friends living together to being a couple who is able to get donated semen to try to have a child together. the 4th try when they finally go to the OB-GYN for the insertion of the semen and just how supportive the doctor is of them and their decision to try to have a child. personally, i am completely heterosexual but it makes me so happy that our society has evolved and is still evolving so that people can love who they truly love. also loved that Ellen Degeneres was in the movie, she is the best!
Wednesday, February 24, 2016
The film we watched in class today was a good video on different relationships between lesbians. I thought that the first story was very sad, nobody really knew how the lady was feeling when she lost the love of her life because they believed she was just a "friend", she was a lot more than that but it was sad that things didn't go the way she wanted them too. Not only was she left with out the love of her life, but they took everything else form her as well. The second story was a good way to show how you need to stand up for what you want. The lesbian friends were quick to judge how her lesbian lover dressed like a man, until she finally stood up for what she really wanted and didn't let that stop her from seeing her new love. The third and last story showed how lesbians can have children and it is not a problem, the only thing is that it will not contain the DNA of both lesbians.
I'm pretty sure I have a cold right now (weather change does that to me) so I'm missing the movie today to drink water and rest. I really feel like I don't have the time to be sick this semester!
Anyway, I'm hoping someone will post about the movie you guys watch in class today or maybe give out the title so I can find it online somewhere. Look forward to hearing about it in class next week regardless.
I think it's so important that a woman knows her vagina and how each part functions.
A few weeks ago I was babysitting. More like just picking these kids up from school since it's two girls, ages 12 and 14. The younger of the two had her menarche in December. We were talking about pads versus tampons. At this early start in her puberty she has only used pads. She said something though that alarmed me. "I don't even know where that hole is." She was refering to the vaginal opening where a tampon is inserted. I didn't know what to say. But it showed me how they do not teach the body anatomy in schools. Another issue in our sex education. It reminded me of how I too did not know how to insert a tampon for a long time. I try not to parent too much since I am not her mom and her mother may have plans to show her about her body. I do hope that her mind grows curious and that she explores her body. Because a woman should know, and men should too frankly.
Tuesday, February 23, 2016
Monday, February 22, 2016
Parents, Peers, and Pressures: Identifying the Influences on Responsible Sexual Decision-Making- This is the name of an interesteding article on sexual decision making. This article had some really interesting information about SEX!
Sunday, February 21, 2016
I knew about midwifes and about home births but I had no idea there was much more to a doula.
I also liked to hear about how these people approach "the talk" with their children. I think i will apply these ideas and methods when have my own children. Talking about the plan b pill was also helpful because I had a lot of misconceptions about this method of birth control, and I am glad I'm more informed about it.
Saturday, February 20, 2016
Okay so I had a horrible experience with the birth control patch for some odd reason. I was on it for about a month or so, then at night I would wake up with horrible pain in my legs. They were throbbing like crazy. So I started googling and WebMD-ing my symptoms because I thought I was dying (of course lol) and came to find out that I had a blood clot in my leg. I'm not diabetic or anything like that, but it does run in my family. So I was instructed to take it off immediately. The next day after I ripped it off, I had a period for at least 2-3 weeks. Ugh. I just thought I'd share my experience with y'all. Obviously, everyone is different and I probably just have the worst luck ever lol so choose the method that works best for you!
Friday, February 19, 2016
Although what the father shared with us was the highlight for me, I did gain a lot of knowledge from the women on the panel. I appreciated their honesty and openness to share. It was admirable. I am thrilled to be learning so much every week and am very excited to attend more panel discussions.