So Monday we talked about what we thought love was and I came across something on tumblr that I think makes a lot of sense.
There was a student who interviewed adults who were or had been married and asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. They were also asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice. Everybody said it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chose the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the "feeling of love" had vanished or faded and they weren't happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation. The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with. The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.
I thought that it made a lot of sense for how relationships work, if somebody really wants to be in a relationship and want it work they make it happen.